Episode 61: The #1 Money Issue for Couples

In this episode of the Generosity Podcast, Todd McMichen is joined by Shaunti Feldhahn, a social researcher, best-selling author, and speaker. During their conversation they discuss the #1 challenges couples face when it comes to money.

Best Quotes

“The biggest obstacle is the absolute inability of most husbands and wives to sit down at the kitchen table and talk about money.”

“77% of couples cannot talk about money without awkwardness or avoidance.”

“When a couple is avoiding talking about money, or having conflict about money, it’s not about the money.”

“One of the biggest issues we found is that we are resisting being one in marriage in general and it is coming out in how we handle money.”

“The greatest hinderance to generosity – inside or outside the church – is the inability of the husband and wife to sit around the table and talk about money.”

“We found that the people who had more cushion but couldn’t talk about it, their relationship was worse off than people who didn’t have the cushion but could come together to have a conversation.”

“Once you understand what is going on in your own heart and your spouse’s suddenly money becomes an opportunity for connection instead of conflict.”

Shaunti Feldhahn received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author, and popular speaker.Today, she applies her analytical skills to investigating eye-opening, life-changing truths about relationships, both at home and in the workplace. Her groundbreaking research-based books, such as For Women Only, have sold more than 2 million copies in 23 languages; her books and DVD studies are popular in homes, counseling centers, and corporations worldwide.Shaunti (often with her husband, Jeff) speaks at 50+ events each year around the world, sharing her findings with a wide range of audiences such as churches, corporate conventions, women’s conferences, universities, arena events, marriage seminars, youth camps and cruises (yes, those are particularly painful…). Her research and commentary are regularly featured in media as diverse as The Today Show, Focus on the Family, The New York Timesand MomLife Today. Shaunti, Jeff, and their two children live in Atlanta and enjoy every minute of living life at warp speed.

Recommended Resources

Generosity by Lifeway


Thrive in Love and Money by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn


Thrivent Financial